Letting Go - Starting Over

I was asked to give a sermon at a New Thought church in the East Bay tomorrow. I had spoken there before about "Abundance" and it was such a great service that they asked me to come back and talk so fittingly about "Letting go and starting over." Another couple of days and we are closing out the year to start over with a New Year.

While I know the bible pretty well, I am by no means religious and certainly not denominational. I do love "old wisdom" that remains living and active and is so fitting for those hard times. And preparing for this sermon has been quite something. "Letting Go and Starting Over" means something completely different to each person, depending on where each person is in their life. And finding biblical stories that sum up all kinds of letting go and all kinds of starting over was an exiting journey.

The sermon will be video taped and audio recorded and placed on YouTube. I'll keep you posted when it's done.

Meanwhile, we all have had a life where we had to let things go whether we wanted to or not. Sometimes things or people are painful to let go of, others come as a blessing. We love to let go of unnecessary weight and declining health, enjoying good health and a fit body. We don't like to let go of people when a marriage doesn't work out. Usually one if not both want to desperately hold on and make it work. I call this the "squeezing a square peg into a round hole" syndrome. It's only a matter of time until both people realize that working THAT hard to keep a marriage together was not the intended plan.

Yesterday I had an epiphany thinking about my own 15 year marriage and relationship to my ex-husband. We tried so hard to make it work. First I went to counseling by myself (because he felt that he didn't have a problem and therefore he shouldn't have to go). A year later we agreed to join a church and do it "God's way." With much counseling from other couples in the church we managed to hold our marriage together for a bit longer. Then we went to parenting counseling, which then finally turned into couple's counseling. That once again worked like a glue that made us hold on just a while longer.

But when our counselor decided to discontinue being a marriage therapist my husband's world fell apart and he refused to "start over" with someone brand new. For many more years to come we tried to apply what we had learned during counseling, but as time went by our "house" called marriage came crumbling down like a house of cards and there before us laid bare our foundation, cracked, ruined, uneven and in desperate need of demolishing. It was beyond repair.

No matter how much we loved each other, the silent and unhappy days seemed to overwhelm the good days. And we both withdrew into our own shells growing more and more distant. While we never yelled or threw things at each other and didn't call each other names, our fights were internal and within ourselves and they caused us to be drained, tired, unhappy and depressed - all while still loving each other and being respectful of each other. After all, we said "until death do us part." So if it is said that "love is all it takes" and "love conquers all" and "the greatest of these is love" why couldn't we make it work?

Because love is not all it takes when you were not meant to be together. Love IS indeed all it takes if you were meant to be together in the first place.

Letting go of the marriage and my family unit and starting over as a single mom didn't come easy, in fact it took me close to 15 years to finally admit that the red flags that I had overlooked at the beginning had now turned into 3-headed monster that grew stronger by the day. We all suffered, including our daughter - because our energetic differences were causing us to live with what felt like thousands of lightening bolts penetrating our souls each and every day. They hurt, we hurt - it was time to let go.

Today, almost 4 years later I wonder what I was doing thinking that I would ever succeed trying to create "water" out of two mis-matched chemical components. We just didn't match and the red flags were there from the beginning, but I didn't look at them that way at the beginning. The fighter I was I looked at them as challenges to overcome. And although we did overcome them, they were not here to be overcome, they were here to be warning signs, and I ignored them and paid dearly for them in many areas of my life. Just because there are rocks and bolders in a river bed the water doesn't demand for the rocks and bolders to move out of the way, it has no desire to overcome them. Instead it flows around and over them, gently hugging the rocks and bolders but without ever holding for a minute to make them do what they were not meant to be and do.

When we finally decided to call it quits, we promised to part as best friends, and we did. We did our own divorce papers, no attorney was involved, and we never fought over who gets what. It was peaceful and amazing.

Today he's engaged, our daughter grew tremendously seeing us stick up for our own happiness and not making HER the glue for us to stay together. And I am forever grateful to have taken the last 4 years to grow and get myself ready for my Twin Soul to enter my life.

I hope this story encourages you to be gentle and kind with yourself, to recognize red flags and to stop squeezing square pegs into round holes. There are more doors in the castle you've built for yourself. All you have to recognize is which one opens the easiest, because that is the one you are meant to go through. Yes, we have free will and yes we can force open any door, that's why we are called to have been created in His likeness; however, the consequenses of all our actions always remains with us. Selecting the right door is easier than you think. All you have to do is listen carefully in silence because opportunities whisper softly.

Here is to your letting go and starting over...

How To Obtain Peace In 4 Simple Steps

It is a well-known fact that the Holidays have a tendency to bring out the worst in families. How many times have you heard people say: “So glad it’s finally over!”

Can you relate?

No matter how long the bitter aftertaste of dysfunctional holiday gatherings lingers in the air, everyone at the core wants peace. Even that one person who seems to be the cause of all the havoc truly wants peace deep down.

These days a lot more is happening than just messed up family dynamics being forced to gather up around the Christmas tree. Has it come to your attention that things in general have shifted on our planet, not just for us as individuals but for all of humanity?

The number of tragedies that has happened to many of my close friends over the past 3 months seems to break a record with relationships having dissolved, couples separating or getting a divorce, people gaining weight or getting sick, the list is endless. It’s been a true up and down ride for many people in the world. The reasons for this shift are a multitude. To a large degree our mass consciousness affects all of us, including those of you who do not watch the tube and abstain from reading papers, another big part is simply astrological; these are exiting times for human mankind’s evolutionary life journey.

This season is resting on us like a cold blanket, making us go into hibernation, we want to talk less and spoon up more, we want to eat more soup (or eat more all together), and we tend to be more introverted. It’s truly a time for reflection, some do it consciously and others do it intuitively. Even the hours of the shining sun has been reduced and the moon’s appearance on our sky increased, literally; perhaps you know that the moon is in charge of gravity, the mysteries of life, reaching to the depth of our very souls, she is in charge of the dreams we dream, our intuition and so on. Our moon is responsible for our in-breath, for contraction. She affects our third eye and many other amazing qualities. In balance the sun shines outward and takes charge of our outside personality, and yet the sun is totally in charge to expand our solar plexus, if we would just let it. Our sun represents expansion with every out-breath we give.

For the next few months my encouragement for you is to breathe, to breathe in and out with a deep purpose, with goals in mind and with intention.

The following is a breathing exercise that comes with miracles attached, practice these techniques several times a day, and in particular during those stressful moments.

1. Fill your abdomen and chest with a deep breath
2. Hold it for eight seconds
3. Let the breath go as slowly as you are able to
4. Repeat this process seven times

If you have not done any deep breathing exercises you may get a feeling of being out of breath and you may have to take a regular breath between the seven deep breaths. That’s okay. The best times to do this exercise is first thing in the morning and last right before retiring while laying down in your bed. You can also do this exercise while you are driving. Or when you are waiting in line and anywhere where you remember to do it.

It is important to remember that are you breathing in the mysteries of life so when you breathe in, make sure your intentions are positive. Your solar plexus opens up just like the sun’s rays come to rest upon earth when that cloud moves out of the way. In fact, your solar plexus is a small version of our big sun in our galaxy and it has the same affect on your body and your surroundings as does the sun on Mother Earth. When the sun shines it is a gift of love, a gift of giving, so when you breathe out you are doing the same. Just like the sun warms up our planet when we breathe out we do the same for others. It is essential therefore that we breathe out only love and gratitude for the people and all beings of this planet, always aware that just like the rays of sunshine hit the moon at night, our solar plexus too bounces off its rays to our inner being and thus affects the people around us. Your breath has the capability of giving life and sustaining life. So go out there and breathe, always knowing that your breath has tremendous power, therefore breathe with love and gratitude.

Help! He Thinks I’m Fat…

When she got married she was a size 2. After their daughter was born she was a size 14. Two years later instead of losing weight she was a size 18. Instead of hitting the gym or losing the “baby fat” she hit post partum depression and threw in the towels resolving to the fact that she was just big and “he better loves me for who I am on the inside rather than the outside.” He did love her for the person she was, but his looks on her enormously large size 18 body and 40-DD chest and a g-string that turned into booty-floss that got buried under all those “loafs of bread” did not make her feel the sexiest or most attractive woman in the world. But she didn’t care anymore…

Sounds familiar?

So what are you to do when you feel stuck in a body you don’t want to be in, fighting a depression that makes you feel guilty for having it in the first place since you just gave birth to another life and are “supposed to” float on cloud nine. You’re so uncomfortable that by now you have resorted to slip-on shoes since you can barely bend over long enough to tie your shoes.

You’ve tried working out but the time constraint now with the new child keeps you busy. You’ve tried every diet there is, and the more they fail (and we know 95% of them fail) the more depressed you get. And the excuses for not getting back into shape are endless…

Should you leave this dead marriage? What if you did?

And yet, life goes on – whether you're fit or fat!

Here are 3 things that can help you get off to a great start to regain your health and re-ignite a new spark into your partnership:

1. Stop the excuses as to why you are not losing the weight. Instead, find positive reasons why you want to regain your sexy figure. You’ve been there before, you’ll get there again. There is no need to worry about losing all the weight by next week, just start somewhere and be consistent.

2. Know that this is not about him, this is all about you. You are in this together, yes, but losing the weight for him is superficial and will only make your weight loss temporary. You must want to lose the weight for you and you only. You are the one feeling unhealthy or unattractive and you want to feel great about yourself. Having your partner be attracted to you once again is an added bonus and benefit and can serve as a motivator, but it should not be the main reason.

3. Don’t be rebellious and do what I did and put your hands on your hips with a bad attitude: “He ought to love me for me not for what I look like.” I’m sure he loves you no matter what, but you also must learn that most men are stimulated by visuals (and are equally as turned off by them). That is part of the biological make-up and no matter how much you want to rebel against it, you’re only hurting yourself and him as well. Accept Mother Nature for what she has created and know that she works perfectly at all times, either with you or against you, the choice is yours.

Foods That Slim You Down

Since gas has gotten so expensive I decided that my car needed to go on a fuel diet. So I stopped putting gas into my car but I still needed it to go places. Until that infamous moment when the car stopped in the middle of the highway. It had run out of gas… Of course this is a joke and not a real story, although this happens to people every day. Interestingly enough, as people we purposely stop feeding our bodies by withholding fuel from it and demanding for it to continue to not only work, but work better than before.

How ludicrous and illogical!

Yet somehow feeding our bodies and losing weight seems to have hit a wall and we try diet after diet, none of which work. In fact we know that 95% of all diets fail.

Here are 3 foods you can ADD to your diet, which will promote natural weight loss. Note that I’m not telling you to cut out any foods, no, I’m asking you to add foods to your current diet:

Squeeze 2 pink grapefruits each day and drink on an empty stomach. Make sure that you do not add sugar or any other sweeteners to it and that you do not eat at least 15 afterwards. Fruit in general, except banana, does not need any digestive juices. If you eat fruit with your meals, your fruit has to sit there in your stomach along with the other food that needs to be digested first. Often at the detriment of fermenting fruit, which causes stomach aches to many.

Drink 1 gallon of water a day. Yes, 1 gallon. When I was first encouraged to drink 1 gallon of water a day I thought to myself that my bladder could never handle that much fluids, but it did and weight started to come off easily and I realized that I was hungry a lot less. Often when we think that we’re hungry our body is actually telling us that it is thirsty. Make sure that you drink your water without lemons or lime and without ice if you can.

Drink as many high-water content foods as you can. Especially for snack. High-water content foods are natural foods that are juice and contain a lot of natural water such as celery sticks, dikon radish, little red radishes, apples, iceberg lettuce and so on. Eat them raw, not cooked. High-water content foods give you that full feeling and their juices are the best natural way to flush out toxins and unnecessary fat cells.

On a side note and food for thought: flushing out non-productive cells also helps eliminate old and unresolved issues, provided you want to let go of old stuff, of course...

Blessings To All of You

Thank you for sharing with me a few glances into your lives. It has been an honor and continues to be so. All of you are special people, my readers are considerate and dedicated. Your are truly one-of-a-kind and I honor that in all of you.

My Holiday and New Year's wish for you is that you always remember that love and happiness are not things to be "arrived at" no matter how much work you put into wanting to own those energies in others. Life is a journey. Happiness and love can only come from within you and spread out towards others.

Always remember that you hold the key to your own Universe!

Happiness is a State of being, not a state of having. So instead of expecting your partner, your friends and your family members to make you happy, realize that no human is capable of giving you their joy, because joy is already within you. So my wish for all of you is that you let your happiness bubble up from within you so you can share it with others.

It is my prayer and blessing for you to find happiness and know that it is my intention to be here through my blog, my products, my products, my eZine, my and my personal givings to you.

May your holidays and New Year be filled with the child-like joy and a love that spreads from you to your horizons and beyond to infinity. You truly deserve it!

In love and rays of light,



Chaszey

Four Kingdoms Part 2 of 2

We covered the Mineral and Plant Kingdom. Today, let’s look at the animal and the kingdom that lives within us as humans.

Unlike a rock that is in a constant hypnotic state and a plant or tree that is in a constant peaceful trance, both without an ego trying to make them go out and fight for their very existence, animals and humans are very much driven by ego; we’re here to stay, with one purpose in mind: survival. Survival is led and managed by its ruler, the Ego.

Animals can be categorized into groups of meat-eaters, plant-eaters or those that enjoy a mixed diet. If you’ve ever noticed animals within those groups when they are eating, it’s interesting to watch that a plant-eating animal seems a lot more peaceful and calm than a meat-eating animal that gobbles down the food without chewing it at all. A plant-eating animal literally takes on the cell memories of the plant diet and therefore is a lot calmer overall. A meat-eating animal is struggling with ego, it’s about survival, it’s about having enough, getting enough and eating as fast as possible.

Where does this put us?

Throughout the ages we have been taught by many wise teachers that we are created in God’s image, that we are to rule over every living creature on earth. And man has done just that. Whether we’re doing a good job at it or not is not the point here.

Everything is in the process of becoming. We never stay stagnant, we never stay still. We either grow or we shrink. This includes all beings on this planet, including the animals which we were given the responsibility to rule. We have been entrusted with their well-being and their growth. Today, however we have gone as far as forcing plant-eating animals to become meat-eaters. Was this the type of ruler we were meant to become?

Back to the ego inside our cells. Cells of animals who are meat eaters have a tremendous amount of fighter instinct and are ruled almost exclusively by survival. The very instinct your body is eating and will have to digest. Most of our bodies are such phenomenal laboratories, that we digest a piece of meat just fine. However, it’s the ego within the meat-eating cell that cannot be digested and does not serve us to obtain or sustain a meditative state. It’s as if our ego merged with the ego of a piece of meat go to war within our bodies, with the stronger one to survive. Yes, our cell will most likely survive, otherwise the result is disease, cancer and so on. THINK ABOUT THIS.

Eating foods from plants and fruits is our lot. We were also told the following: “I give you every seed bearing plant on the face of the whole earth and every tree that has fruit with seed in it. They will be yours for food.” (Gen. 1:29)

Think about this and watch the following over the next few days. People who eat a lot of meat eat a lot more frequently than people who are vegans or vegetarians. Their bodies have to eat a lot more frequently because the meat-eating ego is fighting with the human ego. The human ego will win in the long run because we are given the “ruler status,” the path however is a turbulent one and often one accompanied by disease.

Am I trying to make you a vegetarian or even a vegan? Absolutely not. This is food for thought. The question is: What do you want with your life? Are you fully at peace or could you use a bit more peace in your life? Could your marriage use more peace? And is your body really feeling at peace?

I want peace more than I want excitement. I want to know that I’ve done my best and supported all beings to become the best they have come to be.

Happy Holidays to those of you who celebrate! And may all your wishes and dreams come true. But most of all I pray for peace for each and everyone of you!

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Four Kingdoms – Part 1 of 2

When we look at the world which we can touch and see, we realize that there are seemingly four kingdoms:

1. The mineral kingdom
2. The plant kingdom
3. The animal kingdom
4. The kingdom of our source which resides within us, according to the teachings

Today I’ll talk about the mineral and plant kingdom. Tomorrow we’ll talk about the animal kingdom.

To the mineral kingdom belongs the soil, the rocks and such, things that seem “dead” to us but in essence are far from that. Many can “hear” the messages when holding a rock, and many can “see” what when on when standing on soil. This is the most “asleep” of all kingdoms, as if in a constant trance. Thus many people aid their meditations by using crystals and rocks to get them grounded and so on. Rocks do not contain the ego the way we know an ego; rocks just are. The life of a rock extends far beyond the life of a plant or a human.
The plant kingdom is that of plants, trees and flowers. You may have hugged a tree before and “seen” with your third eye what the tree has seen for hundreds or thousands of year. Visions of the past are shared in this way, by a mere hug and alignment with an old and wise tree. Flowers and branches have a lot more life in them than do rocks and such. Leaves blow in the wind, open and close depending on whether it is day or night and so on. Plants are still in a meditative state, in a constant sleep-like trance, moving and swaying with the wind. Plants do not have an ego the way we think of ego. They do not fight for survival by going out to kill. They are here for a while and then they wither. They are here to be food for us and our animals. The life of a tree extends beyond the life of a human.

Tomorrow we’ll talk about part 2: the animal kingdom. Stay tuned.

Dog vs. Woman

Today I was in awe realizing that my 20 pound Cavalier mix on any given day eats 2-3 cups of food a day, plus snacks in between. He’s slim and fit and yes, I cook his food from scratch once a week and then freeze it. I take him out several times a day, and he gets to play in the dog park for at least 1 hour a day. And yes, if he eats 3 times a day, he has 3 bowel movements a day, unlike most people who “go” once a day, if they’re lucky, no matter how much they eat.

Still, let’s look at this from a math point of view. Let’s take a woman who is 140 pounds, 7 times the weight of Nikko. If she ate 7 times the amount of food he eats each and every day, she would eat 14-21 cups of food a day!

I’d like to invite the reader to comment on what seems like a phenomenon. What is it that makes him not gain weight? What is it that requires a 140 pound woman to eat just a tad bit more than a 20 pound dog rather than the equivalent according to her size?

PS: For the long, 1 hour explanation to this you can visit www.itsmyweightloss.com and obtain the e-Book or the 5-CD Audio Program.

What Children Teach Us About Food – Part 2

The bible teaches us that the kingdom of God belongs to little children. I remember reading this for the first time and instantly thinking: “That’s because they are so pure.”

As I grew in my personal journey called life and was honored to be a mother myself, I learned that purity is only a small part of the many amazing qualities a child has that makes them be so in touch with the kingdom that’s within. When my daughter was born I promised myself that I would cook her baby food from scratch and puree it on a daily basis rather than giving her jarred preservative rich baby foods. And I did. I made enough for the day and provided her with great nutritious, green foods such as spinach with potato puree, broccoli and pasta pure, and so on.

The moment she turned 12 months she started to differentiate between the foods I fed her and she became selective. I never forget the day I fed her the “green stuff” and she spit it out and refused to eat ever eat it again. I thought it was a phase and didn’t worry about it, until I found myself 6 months later sitting in her pediatrician’s office asking for help.

I was advised not to worry about it as long as she showed a good appetite. I supplemented her vegetable nutrients by giving her organic gummy bears that were made with vegetable concentrate. She didn’t eat vegetables for many years to come. I tried everything, all except forcing her to eat vegetables.

Today she’s a healthy almost-fifteen year old beautiful girl who has been rarely sick throughout her childhood.

Children ask WHY all the time and it’s what we as adults should do as well, especially when it comes to food. When we become adults we “just do it” and don’t ask questions anymore. I think that is one aspect why the kingdom of heaven is within children: they ask questions and they change and grow like the speed of lightening.

Although my daughter learned from me, I learned even more from her. I started to watch closely how much she ate and in what intervals. I noticed that from an early age she ate little at a time, but more frequently. I started to do the same. I don’t remember her ever saying: “I’m stuffed.” All I remember her say is: “I’m full,” or “I’ve had enough.” Adults on the other hand have a tendency to eat beyond full and beyond enough, we go to stuffed and then wonder why we feel tired afterwards. I would always let her serve her own plate with the quantity she wanted and taught her that getting seconds, thirds and fourths is completely appropriate if she was still hungry. She never learned how to use her body as a garbage can by having to finish everything on her plate because her plates are always moderately filled with food with just enough food, but never too much.

I also noticed that just like my puppy she too was bouncy and happy after a meal, ready to play and go have fun. Could it be because they listened to their bodies and never overate?

One of the worst things you can do to a child is take over their digestive system, their body and their mind by telling them how much or how little they should eat (or by withholding food for punishment). It is not our job to control them or their bodies or to “know better” and tell them so, but to teach them how to listen to their own wonderful bodies and for them to honor their bodies and to love their earthly vehicle.

I am grateful to see my daughter having grown up to be such a gorgeous and beautiful young teenager who is proud of the way she looks, takes care of herself, loves her body and is free to eat whatever she wants without ever worrying about it. She lets her body be the guide and she obeys and honors it. Let’s do the same as adults and get back to trusting ourselves, rather than the media. Be your own guide, trust yourself and love yourself. Your body longs to cooperate with you by healing itself and giving you a vehicle to last a long time so you can accomplish a great purpose here on earth.

What Children Teach Us About Food - Part One

Welcome Back!

I was growing up with a mother who was raised in the 40s and 50s, one of ten children. She was the second oldest and when she was 14 and her sister was 15 they were both asked to leave home because their parents were no longer able to afford to feed them. My mother took on jobs as a nanny and moved to Rome, Paris and London. She did the right thing by combining what some may call a tragedy and making the best out of it. By the time she was 18 she spoke four languages. The point, however, is that she was raised in scarcity and learned how to make the best out of everything. She would never in a million years throw away left-overs and learned “how to split a penny,” as she used to call it.

It was difficult growing up with the energy of scarcity and to constantly hear about the poor and starving children in Ethiopia. She would put way too much food on the plates for my sister and myself and expect us to eat every bite of it. We had no choice in the matter and often sat there up to 2 hours or until our plates were empty; we were not allowed to get off the chairs and she would periodically check in on us.

I was also the rebel between my sister and I and my mouth often got me in trouble. My punishment was frequently to stay in my room and go to bed early, without dinner. I specifically remember being locked in my room for what my mother called “room arrest” without knowing why I was there in the first place, but making the best out of it by looking out the window and day dreaming. I remember wondering if my parents would one day forget about me and didn’t know if I’d ever get to eat again.

Many of you can relate as I have gotten many e-mails from those you who have purchased my 5-CD program, during which I talk in details about the abnormalities this upbringing causes in children. Today parents often don’t punish children by withholding food, but many still punish or reward children by giving or withholding that special dessert or that special piece of candy.

I didn’t know if food was here to punish me or to comfort me. Of course, food is here for neither. It is here to be fuel to our bodies, that’s it.

I learned early on to steal apples from the tree while walking to school and once I was caught I had to take a detour because the farmer was on the look out for me. My detour passed by a little, tiny grocery store and I learned how to steal a candy bar on my way home from school, just in case I had to go to bed without dinner, at least I had something to eat. But I was caught there too. It was the last time I stole, it obviously wasn’t the answer.

After my Dad left home when I was 12 years old, my mother bought only the basic food groups, bread, milk, butter, etc. She prepared dinner but other items such as yogurts and such, I had to buy with my own money. Thus I started working when I was 12 years old. Going through childhood and teenage years like this you can imagine that the relationship to food is just distorted and confusing. I call it a dysfunctional relationship in the truest sense. My biggest fear being a teenager was to go hungry and run out of food. I learned to make a candy bar last me all day and even if it was the only thing I ate, it was good and it was a blessing.

I promised myself to never, ever do such a thing to my own child if I ever had a child. And I kept to my promise, to the detriment of my ex-husband who was born and raised with lots of food and never went hungry. The concept of letting our daughter make the rules about when she was hungry and when she was full was foreign to him and he felt that teaching her to “finish her plate” was “the thing to do.” This was not up for negotiation, under no circumstances was I forcing my system and some non-sense rules onto my child’s perfect body. It was my job to teach her how to learn to listen to her body and the signals it was giving her. It was not up to me to judge her or force food onto and into her by claiming “to know better” than her wise, little body. It was simply miraculous to watch her grow up and to watch her relationship with food today. She has become my teacher in many ways and I look forward to sharing with you some amazing stories as time passes on.

Stay tuned for the second part of this story.

Good morning Everyone,

Since we were on the topic of “giving” yesterday, I thought you would love to see my “little man” who teaches me all about giving and re-giving and then giving some more (did I mention he has this thing called “giving” all down?).

When I was married and we were thinking of names for our children, Nikko would have been our son’s name. Only Nikko never came… and perhaps today I’m not the young spring chicken I used to be and a son might be out of the question at this time.

So when I was on my way to meet this little guy for the first time, I prayed for three signs that he was to come home with me.

1. We would instantly bond
2. He had not been named yet
3. The people knew his exact birth date

What a list of demands! (PS: I am learning that in order to receive I must be clear about what I want.)

When I entered their house, four adult King Charles Cavaliers tackled me and little Nikko, who was only 12 weeks old at that time, tried to get in between them to give me a “dog facial” too. When he finally succeeded he was so exited he peed all over himself and squealed of joy. He was nameless and they knew his birth date. You may ask yourself why I had such a demanding list for my new companion. There was a grander purpose, I wanted to name him using numerology, which I could only do if I had his exact birth date. Little did I know that Nikko, my would-have-been-son’s name is the perfect numerology sequence for my little puppy. Voila: a miracle stands before me.

"So what do dogs have in common with food and success?" you might ask.

Did you ever notice that right after your dog eats he brings you a toy because he wants to play (children are the same in that sense)? We on the other hand stuff ourselves full, unzip the button and want to lay down for a nap – never in a million years do we want to go play right after we eat. For those of you who have dogs you know how giving and loyal these animals are. I thank Nikko every day for being in my life and for being so selfless and such a great role model to me. He loves the simple life: cuddles, playing and food make him happy.

Children are different in this department, and how they relate to food is what we’ll talk about tomorrow.

Have an amazing day! And don’t forget to eat just enough so you feel happy and content and ready to play right after your meal…

The Laws of Giving

Hello Dear Ones,

My good role model, Walter Russell, was a scientist and philosopher and the founder of the University of Science of Philosophy. I am a student of the University and much of my growth has been due to their examples, even though they long past on to greener pastures; their lessons, books and courses are continuing to refresh my spirit.

One of their beliefs is that the Receiving can only take place at the moment of Giving. There is no such thing as “taking” – the “give and take” as we know it completely defies universal laws. There is only GIVING.

Interestingly enough, if you look at Mother Nature and her principles, we see this concept at work all the time in all places, without exception. The soil gives moisture to the sky and in turn the sky forms clouds which give back to Mother Nature in form of rainwater. And the effects of this giving and re-giving touch every being on this planet and beyond. The cycle never ends and the more giving that takes place, the more re-giving can take place.

When it comes to humanity, relationships and our weight, however, we somehow haven’t quite figured this out yet. We withhold our love from the ones we love because of some nonsense that lurks in our heads, and we withhold food from our bodies because we somehow punish it for the creepiness that we listen to (starve yourself, eat less, count calories). And yet Mother Nature, no matter how long it takes her, will make sure that balance reigns, even when it hurts us she gently yet steadily holds the balancing stick to all that is. And humanity continues to suffer the consequences of our disobedience and it shows in our lack of health and the whopping 84% divorce rate for third marriages (if we didn’t do it right the first time, what makes us think that it will be better the second or third time around unless we KNOW exactly where to break that link?).

What is balance and how does it apply to our weight and our relationships?

Think about it, I would love to read your comment here…

Much love to everyone!

Blind Woman – Part Two

Here is what happened as I got in my car and thought about the events of the day. I said “good bye” to a friend and although it was done and over with, so I thought, there was a “void” in my heart that I subconsciously wanted to fill. Do you ever feel like that? Chocolate does wonders for stuffing and “dressing” wounds and serves miraculously like the calming balm that we need when our heart is wounded. Some reach for alcohol, cigarettes, drugs, sex, solitude or whatever soothes our hurting heart. Most wounds are festering deep below the surface and over time we actually forget that the wound is still there. It won’t go away until it is completely healed. And just like white blood cells come to the rescue automatically when our skin is hurt, our brain signals to us to eat the stuff that serve to “heal” our wounds. Now, you and I know that this “healing method” is no healing method at all. It’s an illusion gloriously put on by our twin joined at our hip to deceive us. His name is Ego.

As I walked away from this woman and towards my car I felt a “skip” in my walk and I felt happy and content that I was able to help this woman out and that I did not buy the chocolate, because I didn’t need it and I certainly didn’t really want it (my ego only made me believe that I needed it, it was a lie). I got in the car and said a prayer for the woman, my friend and my Higher Self, thanking everyone for keeping to their part of the Universal contract – to teaching me the lessons I have come to learn, so I can grow and graduate these classes on this evolutionary journey called life.

So in one swoosh I permanently healed a wound by learning that GIVING out of selflessness is the only healing balm there is. There is no such thing as beating a dead horse when it is already dead, by revisiting the issue over and over again. I said good-bye, I needed to let it go – not tomorrow, not in a year from now – today and now. And I was able to do just that in less than a 10 minutes simply by giving to someone else.

Today was a glorious and happy day. One that was lighter, with less of a load to carry. One that was filled with unconditional love. And my wish for you is that you too can connect the dots quickly when you are hurting. I find that all I need to do is want to connect the dots and the tools appear before me in miraculous ways.

Until tomorrow, much love to you and your friends and family.

The Blind Woman - Part One

Hello Dear Ones,

Last night I went to a drug store to get a couple of items for my daughter when a $3.99 bar of Swiss Chocolate filled with Tiramisu was calling my name (I heard it loud and clear!).

Before I continue you must know that I’m an avid believer in eating chocolate at least 6 out of 7 days each week. Having grown up in Switzerland you can imagine that chocolate was a part of our daily diet – a must have. Switzerland has only 3 approved preservatives compared to 15 in the United States. And as you may know, it’s the preservatives that may cause our illnesses including cancer and more. If there is one thing I wish people would learn how to read it’s the “ingredients” not the “nutritional value” label.

The chocolate content in this bar is barely 20-30%. The rest is sugar, butter and other non-beneficial stuff. I asked myself silently why I was craving this bar of chocolate when I had a bar of chocolate at home that was 85% “proof.” And while I was walking through the aisles thinking about the answer I realized that earlier yesterday morning I had to say “good bye” to a friend and my heart was aching a little. I started to think about my friend and how it got to this place and wondered how things could have ended up different. As my mind was weighing the “good bye” and the urge for chocolate, I found myself in line with the items I went there for in the first place, without the bar of chocolate, when something interesting happened.

The woman in front of me was blind and accompanied by her guide dog, a beautiful yellow lab. All she wanted to buy was a can of ice tea, costing a total of $1.04. She had her $1 bill ready but when the cashier asked for the 4 cents, the blind woman said she would have to look for it in her pocket. The cashier responded that she would cancel the order and hold the ice tea for her until she got back in line with the correct amount. The blind woman took her dollar and walked outside before I could say anything. I was flabbergasted at her lack of empathy and impatience and told the cashier to put the ice tea on my tab.

It is December, and although we’re in northern California, this took place at night, in the dark and it was freezing cold. After paying for it I walked outside where the blind lady was digging through her many pockets of her jackets and pant pockets trying to find the appropriate change. I handed her the ice tea and said: “Here is your ice tea.” She apologized for not being able to find her quarter in time and for making me wait in line and asked me what she owed me: “Nothing, enjoy it,” I said. She thanked me profusely and I walked off to my car.

Suddenly a huge epiphany occurred to me as I walked across the parking lot with a slight bounce in my walk. All of a sudden the dots between unhappiness, ego, giving, being overweight and sorrowful eating made all the sense to me! And I remembered what my good role model and Hero, Walter Russell, told me…

A story I want to share with you tomorrow. Stay tuned for part 2 of this story and check back in tomorrow!

Meanwhile, here is a fun “personality test” you can take online. There are only 4 questions (that make you think) and there are no right or wrong answers. http://memoriter.net/flash/test.html

First Day - And Welcome

Welcome to my new blog spot!
It is my intention and manifestation for you, the reader, to be inspired by my words and my story. For you to find strength in knowing that someone out there, me, is walking along side with you on your journey called Life. If you feel down or depressed, know that you can come here and that you are welcomed and wanted here. Write me your questions and I will do my best to answer each and everyone of them. My e-mail address is corefreedom@yahoo.com.

This blog is for people who are overweight because they are depressed (that may include just about every overweight person - perhaps…). If you are eating into your sorrow because you feel stuck in a non-productive marriage or because you’ve just gotten divorced or are desperately trying to keep your marriage together but don’t know if you can because you have long outgrown your wedding gown, then this is your new home away from home.

I am not here to save your marriage and I’m not here to encourage you to get a divorce. I’m not here to encourage you to stay in misery and I’m certainly not here to listen to any victim mentalities. In fact, the first step to getting out of whatever you’re in, is to decide that you’re done being a victim and decide that you are in control of your life and no one else. Decide that happiness is a state of BEING, not a state of becoming. Therefore, happiness is with you right now; and you’ll find it nowhere but right there inside your heart.

I am here to be a steady companion and to be honest with you. It is not my intention to judge you and at the same time I will not feel sorry for you. I will, however, encourage you to always look for the diamond in the rough within, because that is where true happiness lies.

Weight Loss comes and remains automatically as you allow it and let it be. There is no need to force it, there is no need to look “out there” for answers. You already have them, I will merely point them out for you!

I look forward to a long and successful journey with all of you!

Love,
Chaszey